Thursday, March 23, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 10: Healing Your Corner of the World

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(Better Thinking Series)



The Principle of Charity

Putting it all together


(Thinking... 

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

You've been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.)


* * *

“What is the highest-paid and most important work in America? Thinking. This is because, of all the things that people do, thinking has the greatest possible consequences. The better you think, the better decisions you make. The better decisions you make, the better actions you will take. The better actions you take, the better results you will get, and the better will be the quality of your life and work. Everything begins with thinking.”
(Author and well-known motivational speaker) 

So, then, what is it really all about?

'And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.' St. Paul, I Corinthians 13:13

In the above passage, the King James Version's word 'charity' means love. Love is one of those slippery slope words that can mean a gazillion things to a gazillion different people. That means we must each make it personal. We must decide how to define it, apply it, even judge it. 

This is my take on the subject. You can use it in any way you wish. As the Buddha suggested, Don't believe something because someone tells you, or you read it in great books, or because some guru says it's true. Don't believe it even if I tell you, says the Buddha. Believe it only if it resonates deeply within your heart, mind, and spirit.

Makes sense to me!

Love, then, is simply compassion in action. As Albert Einstein said, "Nothing happens until something moves."

The Key: 

Accept that ultimately, it’s all about you—enlightenment, salvation, promotion, donation. You really are the center of your universe. It could be no other way. It isn’t wrong; it’s just the beginning. 

The Better Thinking Series is a way to help you to learn a bit more about yourself and to begin consciously practicing the Principle of Charity, Love. As the world benefits, you benefit. That’s the way it works. 

Recognizing your own self involvement is the first step in truly involving the rest of us, the world. After all, we're kinda self centered, too. 



Monday, March 20, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 9: Mission

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker


(Better Thinking Series)





Your mission, if you choose to take it....


(Thinking...

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

You've been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.)

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“The conscious and systematic development of service as a guiding principle results in both success and significance.” Greg Anderson

You know your purpose, you've created a calling, now you need a way to put that calling into practice, to bring it into reality. How do you do that? How do you know your'e on target?

The Formula: Vision + Service x Passion = Mission

  • Vision – capturing a sense of what might be. Application: pay attention.
  • Service – Giving of oneself, answering the Call. Application: show up, be available.
  • Passion – developing a love affair with life. Application: do what you love with enjoyment and zeal. 
How to create a Mission Mindset

Anytime you come into contact with anyone, give that person something. You establish a habit of giving. Soon, it's automatic, second nature. Mission established!

Simple and to the point. 

The world needs people who are on mission. And you're invited.

“The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.” Frederick Buechner in “Wishful Thinking”

Comments always welcome!

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Thursday, March 16, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 8: Callings

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(Better Thinking Series)


Answering your call

(Thinking...

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

You've been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.)

* * *

 “We assume ordinary roles. We can make them more than ordinary when we will them to a higher level.”

"Your purpose is clear." A Review...

You are here to reproduce, seek truth, have fun, and be of service. Still, your Inner Self seeks something greater. It’s known as The Call. How do you find, or create, a calling unique to you? Here’s how, in a nutshell:

  • Believe you have a calling. It’s the only way to know if you do. No one forces a calling upon you. It’s a fundamental choice. You won’t do anything you can’t visualize yourself doing.
  • Recognize you have a “portfolio of callings.” You’re not limited to just one. It’s quite possible your entire life has been one calling after another.
  • Becoming aware of those who would sabotage your callings, especially yourself, will strengthen your callings. You will have mentors, and tormentors. See them all as gifts.
  • Each moment contains possibilities. Bringing them to light is basic. Callings mean lifestyle, not spare-time activity.
  • Callings shake up the status quo. Things can’t remain the same. Your comfort zone is at risk! It’s not the good times, the satisfying times, but the moments of fear, boredom, anger, frustration, and inner and outer challenge that will determine your commitment to your calling. Be prepared.
Caution: There are callings you would rather not answer. But you have to. Your child suddenly becomes disabled; your town is destroyed by a tornado; 9/11 happens, killing relatives and perhaps breadwinners. Your life is changed forever. Your noblest plans are shattered. You can and will handle it. You have to.

Callings are not wishy washy spiritual ideals or grandiose pipe dreams. Callings are serious propositions. Be ready for whatever comes your way. 


There are no guarantees. As the bible says, God makes the rain to fall on the just and unjust alike; he is no respecter of persons. 

You're up for it, right? Yeah. You are. 


“I used to want to change the world. Now, 
I’m open to letting it change me.”
(What Should I Do with My Life?)




Monday, March 13, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 7: Purpose

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(The Better Thinking Series)



What the heck are you doing here?

(Thinking...

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.


You've been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.)

“This is the true joy in Life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a might one…the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.” George Bernard Shaw, “Man and Superman”

If you wonder what your purpose is here on Earth, wonder no more. Your purpose is clear. Nature has endowed you with the desire to reproduce. That's your basic purpose on this planet. Why? Well, like it or not, you're tribal. We all are. In order to perpetuate the tribe, we must reproduce. And we do. Like rabbits.

There are higher levels of purpose as well. 


Once you understand your basic purpose, you can move from a reactive/responsive mindset (reacting/responding to outer circumstances) to a creative mind set. You can become the dominant creative force in your life. You move from your basic purpose to calling to mission. But first, your purpose, beyond reproduction is as follows:

  • To seek truth. Seeking truth is a basic survival mechanism. It's also the way to understanding your own higher levels of existence. It comes from many places so be open to it, even if it's unpleasant now and then.
  • To enjoy life, to play. Playing is found in most of the higher animals, including humans. It's health-giving and life-affirming. It's necessary and also moves you in the direction of higher existence. Increase your daily laughter.
  • To be of service to the world. This is the highest level of purpose. You are serving the world on many different levels, all the time. Your daily life impacts those around you, even if you aren’t aware of it. The most menial tasks support the rest of the community. Again, you are tribal.
The point of this post is to help you develop the purpose-filled mindset, to understand how important your contributions are, even the ones you never think about. As your mindset becomes one of creative purpose, your calling will become clear, your mission will unfold.

“Neither a great intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of a genius. Love, love, love—that is the soul of genius." Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

Comments always welcome!





Thursday, March 9, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 6: Kindness

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(Better Thinking Series)


Kindness—The Way of Active Compassion


“Love’s opposite is not hate; it is indifference.”

(Thinking...

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

You've been thinking in habitual patters. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.)

“Kindness is compassion in action. It is a way of taking the vital human emotions of empathy and sympathy and channeling those emotions into a real-life confrontation with ruthlessness, abandonment, thoughtlessness, loneliness—all of the myriad ways every single day we find ourselves suffering or witnessing suffering in others.”
Sharon Salzberg, The Force of Kindness

Are you kind? 

Kindness is the natural inclination of humanity, in spite of the appearances. Another word is ‘cooperation.’ And we've been practicing it for a long time. Proof? We're still here.

Practicing kindness daily helps you develop a kindness mentality. Compassion without action is just pity. Practice creates a habit, which eventually becomes second nature.

There is an unnumbered amount of opportunities to practice kindness each day, each moment. Here's a list of suggestions to get you started:


“Your neighbor is your other self dwelling behind a wall. In understanding, all walls shall fall down. Who knows but that your neighbor is your better self wearing another body? See that you love [them] as you would yourself. [They] too are a manifestation of the Most High.”
Kahlil Gibran

“If you knew, as I do, the power of giving, you would not let a single meal pass without sharing it with someone.” The Buddha

Kindness, then, is as much for you as for the one who receives it from you. 

Your joy is inextricably linked with the joy of the world. Or the apathy, the sadness, the pain.

Your choice.

When you make kindness a habit, it affects all your other habits. And some of those old nagging bad habits will change much more readily.

Start today. If you can insert a few more acts of kindness into your daily routine, you'll end your day on a very high note.

And that's a whole lot better than grumpy!

Comments welcome.

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