Thursday, April 19, 2018

Perfect Life: The Road to Boredom

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Life is like a stained glass window. Beautiful until you look up close!

Every now and then, I like to repost this little quotation from John-Roger. 

What If?
(From Life 101 by John-Roger)

What if life were perfect? 

'What if you lived in a perfect world of perfect people and perfect possessions, with everyone and everything doing the perfect thing at the perfect time? What if you had everything you wanted, and only what you wanted, exactly as you wanted, precisely when you wanted it? What if, after a perfect length of time, you decided, “Perfection is a perfect bore!” 

Thursday, April 12, 2018

How to Unclench: Three Steps to Ahhhhh!

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Let your best colors shine through. 

What you really want is to relax. Here's how!

“We carry within us the wonders we seek [outside] us.” Sir Thomas Browne

You’re seeking something. You’re not sure what it might be, but you know something is missing. Perhaps it’s a relationship? Or a new career? Or a different kind of spiritual walk? Maybe a new car, a new home, or a new city. Yeah, that’s it. If you just move to another city, start over, and get clear, all your challenges will be over, problems solved.


Thursday, April 5, 2018

How Fear Can Be Your Best Asset

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

You're always still under construction. Don't give up so close to the goal!

"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: Fear of failure." Paulo Coelho

So, you're afraid you won't succeed at your most important goals, eh? Well, you might not--yet. But so what? Failure is often part,  even a major part, of success. Persistence, though, can turn failure into fabulous! 

How we allow fear to work against us:
  • Procrastination--it's easier to just sit there.
  • Pretending it doesn't matter--after all, so what, eh?
  • Listening to the naysayers--they might be right!
  • Giving up--it couldn't possibly work.
  • Lying about it--it's not something anyone wants.
  • Sour grapes--oh, well, didn't really want to do it, anyway!
How we can make it work in our favor:
  • Start with small steps--that's not so scary.
  • Remember it's only a thought--the mind plays tricks, caution.
  • Move a little more each day--head in the direction of success.
  • Hang around uplifting people--they'll be supportive.
  • Get up!--hardest part, getting started. Do it now, something small.
  • Practice gratitude daily--by remembering the good in your life right now. Write it down. Journal.
Fear is a powerful emotion and serves valuable purposes. It can also be a major block to success on every level. Recognizing it for what it is, is the first real step to moving beyond it, using it, thanking it for doing its job.

Failure? So what? Most of the greatest successes have failed many times before reaching their goals. You're in good company.

Start small, move a little, be grateful. 

Thursday, March 29, 2018

Tee Hee! Why Laugher Can Help You Heal--Physically, Emotionally, Spiritually

Richard Kent Matthews - Spiritual Life Coach | Author | Speaker

Laugher lifts the spirits. Just ask Luna, my poodle-tese!

Why you might want to laugh more

"A merry heart doeth good like medicine, but a broken spirit drieth the bone." Prov. 17:22

How often do you laugh? Really laugh? Deep belly laughing? In case you haven't already heard, laughter can be quite healing. Here are just a few of the benefits:
  • Non-fattening! You can enjoy it often and not gain a pound. In fact, it may stimulate your metabolism to actually help you lose a few.
  • Increases blood circulation and stimulates faster oxygen delivery.
  • Aids digestion and elimination. Laugh enough and you won't be so 'full of it'!
  • Amplifies respiration; helps body ventilation.
  • Activates and exercises internal organs and muscles. (100 laughs = 10 minutes on a rowing machine! I can't prove it, but it's worth the effort.)
  • Releases endorphins, a natural painkiller and pleasure enhancer.
  • Boosts components of the immune system.
Here's one you'll really like: Laughter connects both hemispheres of the brain and along with orgasm, creates total brain symmetry! Can't ask for better than that, eh?

It's cathartic; and can vanquish emotional and physical tension; releases hostility; helps curb heart trouble; makes you feel good. For you more spiritual types, it helps you to relax and your level of relaxation reflects your level of trust--in God, in Spirit, in the universe, in others, in yourself.

And when you are laughing with--not at--people, they feel less threatened around you, and trust you more.

Finally, happiness is not something that can be sought, that can be found. Happiness is the result of all the choices, actions, and thoughts that spin through your life moment by moment. The more you laugh, the more that little bluebird of happiness lands on your shoulder.

You have been designed for happiness. You have also been given the choice. Find reasons to laugh every day. Opportunities are everywhere. And you'll be the better for it.

"What then, is the right way of living? Life must be lived as play." Plato

Thursday, March 22, 2018

Your Call to Action: Power Living in Seven Steps

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Are you ready to 'flower'? 
Successful living isn't really all that difficult. It's a matter of mind set. 

The Seven Steps
  1. Dominion (self-reliance): Begin by letting go of the Victim Consciousness. “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” Eleanor Roosevelt
  2. Divinity: Recognize your wholeness and connectedness to All That Is. “You don’t belong to you. You belong to the universe. The significance of you will remain forever obscure to you, but you [can believe] you are justifying your significance if you apply yourself to converting all your experience to highest advantages for others.” Buckminster Fuller
  3. Duty: Everything you do, say, think produces consequences. Choose wisely. ”A man cannot speak but he judges himself—with his will, or against his will, he draws his portrait to the eye of others by every word. Every opinion reacts of him who utters it…Everything you say [think, and do] reveals you.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. Discovery: Observe the world around you—now. This is where it’s happening. “Almost the entire world is asleep. The few who are awake live a state of constant amazement.” (Attrib. to several)
  5. Direction: Create your calling. Don’t wait for it to find you. “Up. Sluggard, and waste not life; in the grave will be sleeping enough.” Benjamin Franklin
  6. Deep Bonding (Depth): Transform your relationships, especially with yourself. “Happy relationships depend not on finding the right person, but by being the right person.” Eric Butterworth
  7. Destiny: Aspire to greatness. “What is the use of living if not to strive for noble causes and to make this muddled world a better place for those who will live in it after we are gone?” Winston Churchill

Finally, in all things be grateful. Gratitude itself is the real key to successful living.

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Cosmos: The Deliberate Evolution

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Shedding light in a darkened corner...

Creation? Evolution? Or a bit of both...

"All great truth begins as blasphemy." George Bernard Shaw

"In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth... "

I've been watching with interest a number of local cable access programs dealing with the subject of creationism vs. evolution. Both sides seem adamant: we are right. Can both sides be right?

First, the theory of evolution as laid down by Charles Darwin has many holes and even the evolutionists are aware of it. Things like long strands and repetitions of amino acids, and DNA stuff that boggles the mind. Even temperatures in places that should still be cold, and cold spots that should have warmed up four billion years ago. That sort of thing. And eyes can't come into existence fully formed according to the Darwinian perspective; everything has to evolve gradually, slowly, in small increments. 

But an eye, only in part, serves no purpose. 

The eye must come already intact. It cannot do that according to the theory of evolution. Same with other organs and materials in bodies, plants, and even water.

It's not only complicated, but also weird. Both sides push positions that bear more critical investigation.

Thursday, March 8, 2018

Words of Mouth: What Are You Affirming?

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Gold is more than just shiny metal, you know!

Are the usual 'prosperity affirmations' just so much fluff? 

Books by the hundreds, maybe thousands, tell you how to get what you want, manifest this and that, create overflowing abundance, grab the gold, strike it rich, healing your body, mind, and spirit. Some are pretty good, too.

I've read nearly all of them over the past 35 years or so. Have they helped? You damn right they have. But not in the way you might expect.

After all the reading, researching, practicing, meditating, levitating, migrating, and aggravating, I came to the realization that I was making it way too difficult. So, I dumbed it all down for myself and that's when some good change, some not-so-scary or overwhelming change began to slowly ooze into my experience. I share with you here how I made it all happen.

Healthy TIPS for Manifestation

‘Everything we do is driven by the desire to feel a certain way.’ Danielle Laporte, The Desire Map

So, first thing, how do you want to feel?

‘Affirmations are like screaming that you’re okay in order to overcome this whisper that you’re not. That’s a big contrast to actually uncovering the whisper, realizing that it’s a passing memory, and moving closer to all those fears and all those edgy feelings that maybe you’re not okay. Well, no big deal. None of us is okay and all of us are fine. It’s not just one way. We are walking, talking paradoxes.’ Pema Chödron, Start Where You Are

Second thing, accept you may not yet really know how you want to feel exactly, and honor how you're actually feeling, right now, in this moment. Then...

Thursday, March 1, 2018

What, Then, Is God?

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

There's always new adventure, new discovery, new experience just around the corner!

Can you 'find' God? Let's see...

My friend Joe was over for a coffee recently. We got into a discussion about God. He says he really has trouble with the concept of a deity sitting somewhere outside the universe, with feelings and emotions, watching humans as they bumble their way through life, getting annoyed when they slip up, or overjoyed when they praise him.

Yeah, me too.

If i've learned anything over the past seven decades, it's this:

Whatever anyone thinks about God, no matter the religion, the philosophy or the fundamentalism, only one truth remains. No one's got it right. Oh, they'll contradict me on that one. But it doesn't change the fact.

If there is a Source to all this, the universe, life, me, you, it remains the Eternal Mystery. And even that might be too much description. 

Personally, I like the idea of Mystery, but a living Mystery. Why? Because I'm living. I've been given this amazing opportunity to experience the grandeur of this planet, the angst and disappointment of relationships along with the love and joy. I love the night sky, the ocean, the forests, even the deserts. Life everywhere. And I know it's all just the tip of the cosmic ice berg. 

Mostly, I'm grateful. It may all disappear in the end, nothing remaining. No heaven, no hell, no Bardo or Valhalla. But that's ok. Because I get to enjoy it right now, here, in this moment, 

You may think the world is going to hell. Appearances suggest it. In fact, this is the best time to be alive in all human history. A flushing toilet alone is good enough reason. Right up to the time of my parents' births, people in rural communities often didn't have running water, electricity, or connection to the outside world except through newspapers and occasional telephones. 

This is a great time to be alive in spite of Washington DC, Moscow, or Damascus. 

Join me in gratitude. It changes your mind, your heart, your experience.

Thursday, February 22, 2018

How to Pray Without Ceasing--The Simple, Easy Way

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Can you really pray without ceasing? Seems like a lot of knee work!

"Anything which today seems supernatural, once it is rightly understood, becomes totally natural." Ernest Holmes

Like most of us here in America who are over the age of 40, I grew up in a house of prayer. It was the kind of prayer that seemed to always be begging and pleading. O! Give me this; o! give me that, I’d hear my mother or aunts or church people moan. Rarely did I hear gratitude or real joy coming from all those lips.

As I grew older, I stopped praying altogether. I mean, after all, I had rarely seen any real answers, only ‘Well, I guess it’s God’s will’ every time the disappointment set in. No more money than yesterday. No new car today.

One day, I discovered something radical.

I was contemplating what the heck St. Paul meant when he admonished his readers and listeners to ‘pray without ceasing.’ I’d heard that passage many times over the years but was never satisfied with the explanations—from parents, priests, pastors—no one.

But this time it was different. Paul wasn’t talking about being continually on one’s knees, crying out for help or mercy. He was directing his people to walk in a constant state of grace, that is, gratitude. To be continually in ‘spirit space,’ as I call it. To live like prayer is a relationship, not a demand.

Prayer is not pleading; prayer is not begging; prayer is not hoping. True prayer is action oriented. True prayer is trust. Paraphrasing Unity luminary Eric Butterworth, when you come to completely trust your Source, you’ll never need to pray—in the traditional sense—again. Rev. Butterworth lets us know that all’s well, regardless of appearances. So, here are some power ways to pray:

“There is an inherent law of mind that we increase whatever we praise. . . We can praise our own abilities and the very brain cells will expand and increase in capacity and intelligence when we speak words of encouragement and appreciation to them.”
Charles Fillmore, co-founder of Unity

“When answers to prayer appear in orderly and unspectacular ways, your skeptical friends will tell you it is just coincidence.”
Harry Morgan Moses

 “Practical prayer is harder on the soles of your shoes than on the knees of your trousers.”
Anstin O’Malley

It really is simple…and clear. Prayer is a walk, not a talk. It’s the continual practice of gratitude, compassion, and service.

Finally, to understand that we live in a blessed and magnificent universe, that no matter the appearances, all is well, is to pray without ceasing.

Simple, easy, and powerful!

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