How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 4: What Do You ACTUALLY Want?

Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(The Better Thinking Series)

Acknowledging Your True Desires, 
Hidden and Unhidden

"If you want your dreams to come true, 

you must first wake up." 

Indian Proverb

(Thinking...

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

You've been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.) 

You're not always truthful with yourself. But then, you know that already. 

What do you suppose might happen if you laid it all out on the proverbial table, gave it permission to dance in front of you? What if you didn't seek to deny whatever it is you want, deep down? Stuff you'd never admit to another human being? Dangerous stuff. Lurking stuff. Not so nice stuff.

Or guilty pleasures, like lots of money, or jewels, or hot partners. Maybe a palace in Europe, or a villa in Spain. 

A new car EVERY year. Perhaps a yacht, or, well, you get the point. 

But there are other things you might want that you won't admit out of guilt or fear. Like what, for instance?


Hatred. You might really want to see Joe injured or even killed.
Jealousy. Maybe Tyra looks better than you, or enticed Scotty into her bedroom.
Arrogance. You think you're smarter than Betsy and you want her to know it.
Apathy. You think it may just not be worth the effort.

And deeper still...

You think you're not going to heaven or Valhalla or Paradise because you're not good enough. You want to be good enough to get to those lofty places.

You never got a chance to say good bye to a dead parent, or sibling, or partner, or pal. If you had one more minute with them....

Most of the deep stuff may be out of your reach. But you can still bring a sense of calm and contentment to your life. And that's what you really want, I think. Calm, contentment, satisfaction, joy, laughter, love. Right?

If you can determine among all your desires what is actually possible to achieve, then create a process for doing so, you can have them. First, though, deal with reality. No one is coming back from the dead. Hatred is never the answer. And jealousy makes YOU look bad. Plus, with new eyes and new mindset, the world becomes a friendlier place.

A Process

• First, ask yourself what you think you want and why.
• Imagine yourself manifesting what you want. (See process below)
• Determine what might be presently standing in your way.
• Decide what you’re willing to give up. “Nothing is more dangerous than playing it safe.” Paul Arden
• Decide what you’re willing to do. “Skill to do comes from doing.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
• Release your desire into the care of Spirit (or whatever Source you name, or not) by choosing to appreciate what you have and are right now. “If you ask anything of Spirit, ask once and let it happen. Begging, cajoling, anger and fear don’t work. They hinder.” (attire.) The very act of appreciating sets the ball rolling, whether you believe in a Higher Power or not. 

The universe--life--responds to how you feel about your desires, not just to what you say. Be sure what you want is what you want. Your true intention will always manifest. Best to be aware of what that intention is.

Manifesting Your Desire, or, How to Visualize. . .

1. Get a clear picture of “how things are.”
2. Slowly change it to what you think you want.
3. Surround the picture with a black frame.
4. Get a feel for the new picture.
5. Gradually change the frame to a softer color.
6. Add more detail to the picture. Step into it.
7. Let the frame fade. Gauge your feelings. Is this REALLY what you want? Change if necessary. Make it a game.

This process gets you to your True Intention. Once you
know that, you’re on your way to manifesting it or changing it. Don’t be surprised if what you thought you wanted isn’t really what you want. And that’s OK. Now you know!

Your real desires are often hidden from you. This process won't drop money into your lap, or Scotty won't come running back to you, but it WILL assist you in finding out what you truly want. Then, if it doesn't look good, you can clean house. 

It's OK to want what you want. Don't let any self identified guru tell you otherwise, not even me. But it's essential you get to the crux or gist of it, find out what you want to have, be, and do, and start a new journey.

I've done it many time. Fun, frightening, testing, exhilarating, and worth every moment of it.

Your desire awaits. Step forth and grab it. You only have so much time.

(Differing perspective, or just want to agree? Good. Comments always welcome.)

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