Online Dictionary definition of trust: Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.
My definition: My firm belief that you have my best interests at heart.
Trustworthiness: It’s more important to BE trustworthy than to trust.
The Three Keepers of Trustworthiness
- Keep your promises, your commitments, your word. We have lots of excuses for not keeping them. But keeping them is essential, no matter what.
- Keep your mind and heart open. Those who trust you may tell you things that frighten you or even go against your own values. Are you willing to listen?
- Keep your mouth shut. We often gossip without knowing it. Spouses and lovers talking about their sex life or partner’s habits to friends or colleagues. Not good. Your close ties are counting on you.
Are you willing to be as trustworthy as you hope and expect others to be? Can you even commit to these simple Keepers? Even if you don’t think you can, make the commitment anyway. It may be an ongoing process, but well worth it. As you practice, they'll eventually become habits, the kind of habits that make you the Bestest of Friends!
Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, once said, “Everyone has an invisible sign hanging around their neck, saying 'Make me feel important.' Never forget this message when dealing with people.” Mary Kay is right.
Though we may not be aware of it, we also carry that sign. To be trustworthy, then, is to never take advantage of another’s weaknesses. No gossip, no dishonesty, no deceit.
It’s how we want to be treated, is it not?
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