Thursday, June 15, 2017

Unblocked! Three Myths That Stand Between You and Your Best--and How to Overcome Them

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

The myths must go!

Your beliefs determine your experience. Change your beliefs, change your outcomes...

“There is a natural law of abundance which pervades the universe, but it will not flow through a doorway of belief in lack and limitation.” Paul Zaiter

You have an inner belief boundary that defines who you are, what’s possible for you, and what you deserve to enjoy. This boundary is based in past perceptions and not on fact or truth. You live out these beliefs without questioning their validity. You have a strong need to cling to these beliefs and have difficulty releasing them. Your circumstances won’t significantly change until you release the need to cling to those beliefs and consciously create new pathways, new goals, new thoughts
(Paraphrased from The Inner Game of Selling by Ron Willingham © 2006)

If you find yourself in a place of discontent, ill at ease, not happy, not abundant 'enough,' perhaps you have bought into the three myths that are holding you back:

Myth #1: There’s not enough: there’s not enough money, food, water, air, time, love, etc.
Truth: Sufficiency is not an amount, it’s an experience. Key: Willingness to trust.

Myth #2: More is better--a chase with no end and a race without winners.
Truth: Sufficiency resides inside each of us and we can call it forward. Key: Clarity of purpose.

Myth #3: That’s just the way it is and there’s no way out. The path of resignation. Poor me, poor us. This one holds the strongest grip.
Truth: Sufficiency is a consciousness, an attention, an intentional choosing of the way we think about our circumstances. Key: Openness of mind and heart.

It's always a great temptation to hold onto the 'poor me' attitude, to play the victim, to rest on the edge of martyrdom. And sometimes, even if we don't admit it, we enjoy the pain of it all. Yes. Masochism is real. And masochism is pleasurable. Time to face up to it. 

Next time you find yourself indulging in self pity, be honest: Are you enjoying it? If yes, you can decide whether or not you really want to move out of it. If no, then it's time to step out and take responsibility for your feelings. Start with new actions. Do something different. Start a project. 

Whatever you do, don't continue to lie about feeling sorry for yourself. 

Unless, of course, that's your true goal.


“When you let go of trying to get MORE of what you don’t really need, it frees up oceans of energy to make a difference with what you have. When you make a difference with what you have, it expands.” Lynn Twist, The Soul of Money

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