Thursday, August 17, 2017

The Gift of Receiving: Your New Secret!

By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

Giving and receiving: One Principle!

You cannot give without receiving. It's the Law!

Growing up in a conservative church background, I remember clearly the demands from the minister that God wanted us all to give as much money to the church as possible, but no less that 10%. He insisted God would be most unhappy if we balked at the idea.

I balked.

My great discovery: There is a big difference between tithing and giving. 

You probably already know this: Gliving from the heart is voluntary* and joy-filled. When you feel obliged to give, it’s more like a tax than a gift.

The act of giving contains a special kind of energy; a special magnetism. When you open your heart, and hand, to release the gift, you set in motion a process that can touch everyone around you, not just the one who receives from you. It's like the universe has just been tickled. It's circular. What you give out comes back to you, sometimes in ways you never could have imagined. 

How do you become a cheerful giver? Practice. You begin simply by making the decision to give something to someone every day. Start small if you have to but start. 

The rewards will astonish you.

How to know you’re making progress:

  • You get joy and satisfaction from the giving itself and are not so concerned with how it’s received. “Cast your bread upon the waters.” Jesus
  • You begin to feel strengthened by your generosity.
  • You become more aware of how others have been adding value to your life and your appreciation increases. (You may even apologize for having been so clueless!)
  • You become more deeply sensitized to the needs of the world.
  • You look for ways to add value for the sheer joy of it.
The Rewards: Lots of teachers, preachers, priests, and pastors often remind us--sometimes sternly--that we shouldn't 'expect' a return on whatever it is we're giving. I take great issue with that approach. Here's why:

There seems to be a kind of 'law' that insists all giving begets receiving. No up without down, no in without out, no light without darkness and so on. I tell those to whom I minister or coach to ALWAYS expect a return. Like one expects the dawn, which never fails to appear,  or that summer will follow winter as sure as the snow flies, or that the moon will go through its phases. No need to DEMAND a return. That's what the well meaning teachers, preachers et al are referring to--even if they aren't totally aware of it. Expectation and demand are quite different. 

Whenever I give, I KNOW it will return to me. Just like the sun will rise in the morning, I expect it. And it never fails. I don't have to demand it. 

By the way, when you open to freely giving rather than tithing, even your church, synagogue or mosque will feel the energy shift. Everyone wins.

*The great teacher Jesus always spoke of giving freely. He did not insist on Abrahamic law-based tithing. In fact, he almost always criticized those who tithed while overlooking the more important elements of the law such as caring for the poor and the infirm. He valued true charity far above giving a percentage of one’s profit to the temple coffers.

“Give what you have. To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

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