Thursday, March 2, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 4: What Do You ACTUALLY Want?

Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(The Better Thinking Series)


Acknowledging Your True Desires, 
Hidden and Unhidden

"If you want your dreams to come true, 
you must first wake up." 
Indian Proverb

(Thinking...

You've been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

You've been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.) 

You're not always truthful with yourself. But then, you know that already. 

What do you suppose might happen if you laid it all out on the proverbial table, gave it permission to dance in front of you? What if you didn't seek to deny whatever it is you want, deep down? Stuff you'd never admit to another human being? Dangerous stuff. Lurking stuff. Not so nice stuff.

Or guilty pleasures, like lots of money, or jewels, or hot partners. Maybe a palace in Europe, or a villa in Spain. 

A new car EVERY year. Perhaps a yacht, or, well, you get the point. 

But there are other things you might want that you won't admit out of guilt or fear. Like what, for instance?

Monday, February 27, 2017

How to Create a Whole New Mindset in 10 Simple and Powerful Steps (The Better Thinking Series) Part 3: Befriending Your Discontent

Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker

(The Better Thinking Series)

The season of your discontent?

(Thinking...


You’ve been doing it all your life. It's served you well or you wouldn't be here, reading this. Yet, when you learn to think in better, more powerful and meaningful ways, you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

ou’ve been thinking in habitual patterns. Change the patterns of thinking and a new world opens for you. When your mindset changes, your life changes.)


Examining Your Discontent

“What you resist persists!”

Most of us are discontent to one degree or another. It seems to almost be genetic. We want more of this, less of that, him in our lives, her out of our lives. A better job, more retirement money, a condo in Boca. Perhaps more steak and less meatloaf. We want to be lead singer in a rock band or design the next big hip hop clothing line. 

Discontentment leaves clues. And your first clue is restlessness. Do any of these fit you?

  • Dragging out of bed every morning
  • Increased cravings for coffee, sugar, binge foods, alcohol
  • Decreased interest in pleasure
  • Too much TV
  • Weight gain
  • Less laughter, especially at yourself
  • Seeking approval from whoever will give it or using the term “It’s not fair!”
  • Putting yourself down or feeling underappreciated
  • Feeling tired even when you’re rested
  • A feeling that you don’t own your own life
  • Lying because you fear the truth or think it isn’t good enough
  • Suspicion of others and perhaps a bit more loss of temper
Discontent is a signal. It's trying to tell you something. But if you deny it or get defensive about it, you won't hear what it has to say. Confront it openly, yet gently. Appreciate its source, whether anger or fear of change, perhaps a nagging desire you haven't let come to the surface. 

How to ease the discontent in your life and make it a bit more blissful